Deal in the unspoken
Wilder taught me that what a writer deals with is the unspoken, what people see or sense in silence. It is our job, in nonfiction as well as fiction, to juxtapose words that revel what previously may have been blinked, and provide insights obscured by convention and shame.
(Sol Stein: Stein on Writing)
In other words - smash the frame through which eyes view the world, expose the heart to the reality outside of its edited picture. Not the easiest thing to do, because it first starts with ‘self.’